I’d rather deal with 32°C than freeze at -32°C. Most people here are surprised on our return, but only a few take the time to understand why.
我寧願面對32°C的炎熱,也不願凍在-32°C下。大部分人驚訝我們回港,但他們沒花時間去理解原因。
In Cantonese, 痴線 (Chi Xin) means crazy, off-track, a misfit, 痴 is to stick whereas 線 means threads or nerves. When you have sticky nerves, your mind wouldn’t function well (in the photo, 扇 means a fan and share the same pronunciation as 線, fun part of Cantonese).
廣東話「痴線」是指神經線出問題,即意思是瘋狂、脫軌、不合群。
Society trains us to think or act the same. If don’t fit in, you’re labeled as 'different.' This is especially true for neurodivergents and those with spiritual gifts—we perceive, learn, process, and foresee the world differently. Often, we can see what’s coming long before others, yet our insights are dismissed. When things work out, they may downplay the struggles we've overcome, turning their own insecurity into jealousy, the convo becomes passive aggressive.
社會訓練我們要有一樣的思考、行動,甚至做同樣的夢。如果你不符合群眾,那你就是「異類」。這論點對神經多樣化或擁有靈性天賦的人來說是十分有共鳴——我們觀看世界、學習、處理信息的方式,甚至計算及預測將來的能力,都與眾不同。我們往往能提前看到及預算將發生的事情,卻常被忽視。而當我們生活一切順利時,我們經歷過的痛苦挑戰常被忽視,眾人甚至把他們情感轉化為嫉妒,對話也變得負面。
Most importantly, everyone is different. Our life chart is as unique as our DNA, and our luck, like experiences, is one-of-a-kind and depends on how much of an effort a person is willing to put smartly. Before seeking understanding from others, we must first understand ourselves.
但最重要的是,每個人都不同。我們的「命」如DNA一樣獨特,「運」便是一樣不可複製的個人成長經歷,視孚個人的努力、修行。願意先了解自己、生命時間管理才能期望別人理解你。
Then, to solve the ratio problem. Understand ourselves and place ourselves in the right environment, where more of us exist, we’re no longer 'misfits'—we’re understood, valued, and can thrive.
最終,處理「比例」問題。當身處環境裡大多數是有共鳴的,那時我們並不再是「異類」,頓時被理解、被重視、能夠茁壯成長。
“Others laugh at me for being too crazy, I laugh at them for not seeing through” from Song of the Peach Blossom Cottage -- by Tang Baihu
唐寅《桃花庵歌》中提到:「世人笑我太瘋癲,我笑他人看不穿」
To all neurodivergents: don’t give up and stop blaming. It’s about understanding your own potential and then you’ll know where the right place is for you next. The world needs us to balance out.
致所有神經多樣化的朋友:不要放棄及不要再責怪他人。了解自己才找到那個讓你閃耀的地方。世界需要不同的人來平衡。